Action vs. Inaction
I may be the only one, but 26 has been one hell of a ride. Balancing motherhood, a career, wife duties, loss, and myself. The moments that were devoted to me have slowly gotten lost. Finding yourself comes from a combination of specific types of action and inaction. So, I want to start with this…Stop carrying about what everyone else thinks. Go out and do whatever you want. Others don’t have to understand what you are doing. It’s your life. Don’t be a follower, be a creator. Create your own life path.
We all reach a time in our lives where we feel we should chase our biggest dreams, become friends with people who aren’t your age, hang out with people whose first language isn’t the same as yours, get to know someone who doesn’t come from your social class. This is how we can see the world. This is how we grow as person. Through our life experiences and interactions.
Imagine, you have to shoot an arrow, but without being given a target. Where would you aim? And say you did aim at some random thing. Why would you aim there? Is there any purpose for that? Get the idea..This is just a example of what life is like without a goal or target in your mind. It is pointless and waste of energy and effort, because you don’t know where you are going.
You can have all the potential in the world but without right goals and focus your abilities and talent are useless. Just like how sunlight can't burn through anything without a magnifying glass focusing it, you can't achieve anything unless a goal is focusing your effort.
Focus on new task/opportunity/activity exploration. And get past the first '20 hours' where learning is at it's toughest in any new discipline.
This is where most people fail.
- Discover something you like
- Learn to learn (a HUGE skill)
- Learn to focus (even bigger skill)
- Build consistency
Then there is Inaction:
Mediation and introspection and mindfulness
Meditation involves focussing on your breathing, on fixed points, on allowing your body to rest and let thoughts come and go. To slow everything down and to find some kind of inner equilibrium (I suck at this even today)
Introspection involves you proactively assessing pro's and con's of each activity and how much you like/dislike/display an aptitude for them
Mindfulness is you being aware of your feelings as you do some of these things and what you find joy from/detest/are indifferent to